The Million Dollar Question . . .

A friend of mine, Dr Ann Quinn is Head of Sports Science & Innovation for the Lawn Tennis Association Great Britain, and forms part of the Leadership Team for British Tennis. Former Wimbledon champion Pat Cash credits Ann with helping him "become one of the fittest tennis players to ever walk on a tennis court".

This week Ann sent me a copy of her Weekly Newsletter, below, and to my amazement it was on the same topic that the Client Relations Team have asked me to convey to you this month. I was surprised that meeting the right partner requires the same strategy as winning at Wimbledon.

However please be assured that it is much easier to find the right partner for you than it is to win at Wimbledon - if you take the right road. Many people make it very difficult for them selves by focussing on the goal instead of enjoying the journey. See Dr Quinn's Newsletter below

Quinnessential Quotes
your weekly dose of inspiration and motivation www.annquinn.com 4th October 2009

"Just enjoyed a great weekend up in Sheffield with Steve Peters, a very important part of the British Cycling Coaching Team. Winning fourteen gold medals just does not happen without a great team behind the athletes and Steve was a very significant part of that. One of the key messages for me this weekend was not to have expectations. In other words, don't expect to win the Gold Medal. Focus only on the process and doing your best. If you did your best and did not win, then look at what are the reasons behind that. What skills have you not yet mastered?"

Concentrate on the successes in your life and look at the failures and negatives as corrective feedback to get you back on target again. Denis Waitley

If you don't settle for anything less than your best, you will be amazed at what you can accomplish in your lives. Vince Lombardi

...it's the same with business. If you focus on the goal and not the process, you inevitably compromise. Businessmen who focus on profits wind up in the hole. For me, profit is what happens when you do everything else right. Yvon Choulnard

When the road is long, when the challenges are great, that is your chance to truly shine. For when you give it all you have, you end up with the best you can be. Ralph Marston

My challenge to you this week is to focus on doing your best. Focus on the process and winning will take care of itself. And don't forget to enjoy the journey! Ann Quin

The Client Relations Team conveys the same message, "When we become attached to our goal we send a message that we are 'lacking' therefore we drive it away. The very thing that we want, we drive away."

Do not worry about the end result but enjoy the journey. Let us at Entre Nous worry about your goal and you just concentrate on having fun. Work on being popular so that you collect some friends to give you a selection of people to choose from.

Yvon Choulnard explains it perfectly. In business if one only concentrates on profits or what the share holder wants the business loses its purpose, its heart and soul. In your pursuit to find that sometimes elusive partner, the most important thing is to have a choice. That is what Entre Nous offers that other services don't offer, the opportunity to choose.

There are too many married couples in this world who will tell you that they have to work very hard at their marriage. The reason they have to work very hard at their marriage is because they did not have a choice. They met one person and have been adapting to each other ever since.

Do you want to have to work hard at your relationship? In other words do you want a relationship that is hard work. If your relationship is hard work it leaves less room for fun and enjoyment, less room for intimacy and love.

If you have to work hard at anything let it be the step son-in-law or your mother-in-law but definitely not your relationship. Let your relationship be ideal, loving, caring and fun .

How do you ensure that your relationship is going to be the right one? By having the choice of a minimum of 12 people or more if need be.

How do you ensure that you have the choice of all of the people that you meet? This is the million dollar question . . .

Be the person that everyone wants to meet. Yes be that person. Read the Entre Nous E-Book and find out what a woman/man is seeking in a partner. Don't assume you know. If you attended a recent New Members' Seminar you will have seen the list drawn up by both the men and the women in the room and how different the lists were.

You will notice that neither men nor women want an Olympic athlete or a billionaire or even Angelina Jolie or Brad Pitt. They want what you are very capable of providing and being.

You can be warm and friendly and good fun. You can be interesting and also be a good listener. You can present well, be fit and healthy, enthusiastic and energetic.

However if you are busy worrying whether each person is right for you (focussing on the end goal) and dismissing those that don't appeal initially you will lose most of your introductions. When you do meet the right person for you, because you are focussing on whether they are right or not (instead of focussing on being attractive and popular) that Mr/Ms Right will not be interested in you.

For every person you dismiss as unsuitable there is a person who will dismiss you for the same reason. If everyone behaved in the same way, no one would meet their Mr/Ms Right.

The person who lacks confidence says, "I don't want to lead them on". Leading them on meaning having a game of tennis or going to an art gallery. Unless one is prepared to practise being friendly and making friends one will not be practised when Mr/Ms Right appears.

The popular person at Entre Nous inevitably ends up with what we consider our current 'best catch'. The popular person (when they have formed a relationship) thanks us for the many valued friendships they have made too. The popular person values good friendships and always finds room for more.