Creating a Good First Impression

I can't emphasise enough the importance of the first impression. You only ever get one chance to create a good first impression. If you meet an elegantly dressed woman in a business outfit in an office and see the same woman 3 days later in a track suit or cycling gear you think that executive is on her day off.

Whereas if you see a woman for the first time needing a hairdo and make up, wearing a tracksuit in the office and 3 days later see her dressed elegantly for the office suit you are more inclined to think the tea lady is wearing a suit today.

It's important to feel attractive. Frank Sinatra's friends said the most attractive feature about Mia Farrow (when she was dating Frank Sinatra) was her high self image. She exuded confidence in herself and her looks.

The reason men are attracted to a self confident woman is that it reinforces his opinion of her, especially in the early days. Hence he likes a woman who believes in herself.

If you tell him you have large thighs he might politely say, "No they're not that big", but you will have informed him that you have big thighs. However if you say, "All the women in my family have great legs", he will admire your legs and feel proud to be out with a woman with great legs. Men are easily hoodwinked into believing a woman looks better than you really think you do.

Be prepared, you never know when you will meet Mr Right. And how is Mr Right going to find out about all your great attributes if they don't notice you in the first place. Therefore you must look single.

How does a single woman look? A single person wears make up and does her hair before she goes to the market. She doesn't wear daggy jeans on Saturday mornings; she wears her designer labels whilst shopping.

Men assume you are married if you are wearing your oldest tracky suit and looking mumsie. At the gym, or on your running track, it's important to look good in gear that suits you – emphasising your best features.

A single woman has a good figure, trim and shapely. If you have gained a few excess pounds now, whilst on the journey to finding your lifelong partner, is the most important time in your life to be looking your best. I have never come across a man yet who has asked for an overweight woman.

Men, do however frequently ask for a woman who is fit and can keep up with them, doing activities, going places and having energy. If you are not your fittest, now is the ideal time to give yourself an energy make-over.

Men want a woman who looks like a woman. He is seeking a playmate, someone to keep him company during his leisure time. He can get mental stimulation from his work colleagues; from you he is seeking femininity and grace. If you are overpowering, practise drawing on your gentler side (everyone has one).

Wear skirts and show a little leg, some lace at the cleavage and belts if you have a waistline. Emphasise your good points and hide your not so hot features. Reinforce your best features to yourself frequently, believe in yourself and exude that belief to others.

Workaholics, make the time to meditate or take a shower before you meet men. School teachers; take off your school hat before you meet your introductions. Don't take the children, your ex or your latest problems to the meetings - leave those subjects behind totally.

Every man wants his woman to be perfect – just like you want your man to be perfect, so don't tell him about your failures or anything negative that might put him off before he learns to like you for you.

Show him how great you can look, what fun you can be and how much energy you have.

He wants a woman who can make a success of a relationship. Show him that you enjoy life, enjoy the company of men and that you have a successful life. By successful you mean you have good friends, a loving family, a good job and a good home environment – the type of life that he would like to be part of.

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