Divorced Guys - #1 If you find yourself at a loss for words on dates

Part 1 of 7 Series

If you find yourself at a loss for words on dates: First of all ask questions, not personal ones but topics such as her favourite hobbies, interests, sports, TV shows, movies she has seen. Ask her to tell you about her first car; ask her about the rings she is wearing on her fingers; how does she travel to work and even about her friends. That should keep her going for the entire meeting.

There is a little trick you can learn. Keep your own library of topics that you can bring up. Amusing stories, we all have them, but it is impossible to think of them when you are stretched anyway, on new territory and trying to get everything right.

Write a list of your favourite stories and amusing incidents. Once you have written down the topics you will remember some of them when you need them. You don't need too many because she wants to get a word in here and there.

I went out with a guy who had all his favourite stories ready for me. We couldn't have a conversation because he had story after story. His stories were probably good ones but they were all men type stories about the armed forces that didn't interest me. I was wondering how I would ever switch him off.

I was feeling that he was taking no interest in me while he was reeling off his stories verbatim. I was right. It turned out that the relationship was all about him. Don't let the conversation follow a path that makes you look as though you are not interested in her.

Also try to remember what she told you. If you can refer to her discussion next time you meet she will be delighted. Women love men who can remember what they have told them and call them when they say they will, oh and arrive on time.

Here are the things you must not discuss even if she asks you about them: Other women, your 'ex', your children, complaints of any kind including other women you've met or your mother and especially about work, anything negative, house work and shopping.

No one wants to hear complaints or about your negative attitude, and the average career woman would be bored to tears hearing you talk about housework or shopping. If she asks you why your marriage ended, have a 5 word sentence ready then change subject. People pretend they are interested but they are not.

Remember a very important fact, just because people ask you doesn't mean you should tell them. Manage the conversation to ensure it's fun and interesting but not personal.

Read Dial A Woman. Chapter 2 has tips on what to say. You can purchase it on line as an e-book www.entrenous.com.au/shop

Other articles in this series

1 If you find yourself at a loss for words on dates

2 Compartmentalise your life to avoid the baggage creeping
into the exciting new adventure you are about to embark
on.

3 Where are you going to entertain women?

4 Revamp your wardrobe

5 Beware! Don't leave yourself open to be tricked, fooled
or conned

6 Remember the manners you used when you were just out
of high school

7 Don't rush into the next relationship

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