Does size matter? by Rosalind Baker

On the celebrity singing show, It Takes Two: Grant Denyer [about 5ft 2 ins. Tall])said of his co-host Erica Heynatz, [about 6 ft tall] "Standing next to her, I have felt a little bit like her hand puppet".

He also said: "I've never not got a gig because I was too short. I think it only affects you when you're trying to pick up hot chicks; most of them seem to be bloody tall". (Peter Munro of The Sunday Age, April 27, 2008 News Extra 15).

Do women care whether a man is taller? We find that women who are comfortable with themselves don't worry about physical features. They are more concerned with the relationship.

The woman who says, "He must be at least 2 – 3 centimetres taller, because I want to feel protected" believes that when she finds a man he will solve all her problems.

If a woman is insecure, she will still feel insecure even if he is 6 feet 6 inches tall. People who are seeking a single woman or man for a relationship to solve their problems rarely get the satisfaction.

Solving their problems before they seek a partner would give them a much better opportunity of forming a successful relationship.

Although men like solving problems few of them are very good at solving other people's issues. When a woman breaks off with a man, there can be dozens of reasons but when a man breaks off with a woman one usually hears the same reason: "She had too many issues."

At Entre Nous some women ask for a tall man. We find that this category of women have usually been unsuccessful finding a special partner and we know when we hear this that they are going to be a challenge because they are usually set in their idea of how a partner 'should' be.

They are looking firstly for short term needs instead of focusing on needs for a long term relationship.

According to Peter Munro in the aforementioned article, "Various scientific studies have found short men are less likely to have a partner and earn 10% less than their taller peers.

They are more susceptible to discrimination, jealousy, hearing loss and obesity." This surprised me because I immediately thought of Rupert Murdoch, Warren Buffett, Churchill, Napoleon and Tom Cruise who are/were more successful than most.

In my own experience when I first started dating I was attracted to taller men but soon discovered that on the whole that tall men didn't have as much personality as shorter men. Short men made more effort – showed more interest in you and were better listeners.

In an Entre Nous dating service workshop, a short fellow was complaining that he had plenty of single women friends who said to him: "I'd go for you if you were 6 inches taller." He thought the tall guys had it made.

I asked the tall, good looking fellow, (who was 6 feet 2 inches and lacked personality) next to him if he have any trouble attracting women. He indicated that he didn't even have any women friends.

My brother, Bernard (average looking) is 5 feet 5 inches and his best mate, Laurie is 6 feet 2 inches tall with knock-out looks. Bernard found that when they went out looking for women, the women would go for Laurie.

So he decided that he would go off on his own. He could attract a woman on his own without the competition of Laurie.

If a woman wants a tall man because she finds him more attractive, she is not looking for a good relationship but an image. How long will an image endure? It may even go out of fashion.

We believe the relationship is the key to a lasting partnership – the most important facet. When one is seeking a lifelong partnership, one that will endure the test of time and all the troubles and challenges that life presents us; will a partner's height have any bearing on its endurance?

Height is so irrelevant and superficial that one wonders how it could even be considered.

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See also:
The Truth about Love by Pat Love, Ed. D pub. By Simon & Schuster
Are You the One for Me? By Barbara De Angelis pub. By Element

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